Extra Safe Space #8
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I don’t know how to dress now that I’m into my 40s and feel torn
There are so many rules about what Clothing is age appropriate and then there's also what you feel comfortable with. I try to forget the first part of that and go with the second. But it's not always easy to separate and I totally relate to your dilemma.
I tried to dress "professional" for a bit and it was soul crushing. Now I wear what I love and I don't feel torn at all if it doesn't fit into to some narrow idea of a norm (those are decided by boring people anyway). I'm more kind of pissed that I masked for so long, and a big part of that was wearing bad clothes.