Kris! Even after all of our emails and documents and technological glitches and notes back-and-forth, there's still more I want to say to you about your incredible story. First of all, thank you for being so completely upfront. Your honesty and vulnerability is inspiring.
Also: Now I kind of want Dave to write his version of this relationship story.
Also again: as I was editing, and began realizing that no, some of the people in the story who were originally not named were not all one person, and that you had in fact lost multiple people to their addictions, I found it so startling and powerful and moving that in the context of you advocating for a relationship where you are the addict that you would also include such stark facts about how addiction affected so many people that you knew and loved. That kind of juxtaposition makes this opinion piece so layered and interesting to me. Because it's not all tied up with a bow and no one has it all figured out.
Thank you and I love you for working on this with me.
This article includes so much that moves me — but that caption and that photo of your two rocking out is solid gold. The world needs more Daves and whatever the plural of Kris is.
Are you talking specifically about the caption on the black-and-white photo where she says Dave on bass and me on drugs… I mean, drums? The moment I got that caption from Kris, I wrote to her screaming – it is one of my favorites ever. She said some people think her humor is dark, but not us!
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this Kris Rose (what a name!) The wrap up gave my heart wings - this advocacy for being your own authoritative regulator- and Dave’s trusting,non-judgmental approach to how you decide to handle yourself. I recently heard a sociologist April Henning talk about this in the vein of: what is with people who want us all to be totally clean, pure and sober all the time when our environment is riddled with toxins and impurities? Acceptance leads to balance and better choices. I’m ever so grateful to be hearing and reading new perspectives on this topic. 💌
I’m honestly stuck on what is causing the chronic pain in this article, because that’s literally my side-gig: I solve medical mysteries. It’s much more impressive if you see my before I was my oncologist and after pics. Then I’m like the White Witch of the White Coats.
I like not in person parties. I’d go!
And I’m still firmly team Long-Form Jane. And I’m stoked about the ANTM as a watcher until ‘you at home could vote’. Yick.
I never watched it at the time but I'm aware that ANTM switched to audience voting and it does sound ick.
Also, I fully expected you to have insight into what Kris is dealing with pain-wise and maybe with more info you can help. Thank you for the thorough comment!
I'm very open to boring you with my long medical history and my struggle to find out exactly what is the major engine behind my chronic pain. I also love witches so...
Jane! I missed the last one, but please count me in (virtually) for All Tomorrow's Parties! (Sorry, I had to! 🤣🍌) Kris, I'm so glad you're in a much better place these days, with a supportive partner who appreciates you!
Kris, what a great piece. I’m so sorry to read about the misdiagnosis of your thyroid. It’s unfortunately super common for women…I have some experience with that myself.
I’m all for finding balance with substances and not judging anyone for being unable to “raw dog” daily life. I mean, just reading the news or hearing anything that goes on out in these here streets these days…*shudder*
Kris! Even after all of our emails and documents and technological glitches and notes back-and-forth, there's still more I want to say to you about your incredible story. First of all, thank you for being so completely upfront. Your honesty and vulnerability is inspiring.
Also: Now I kind of want Dave to write his version of this relationship story.
Also again: as I was editing, and began realizing that no, some of the people in the story who were originally not named were not all one person, and that you had in fact lost multiple people to their addictions, I found it so startling and powerful and moving that in the context of you advocating for a relationship where you are the addict that you would also include such stark facts about how addiction affected so many people that you knew and loved. That kind of juxtaposition makes this opinion piece so layered and interesting to me. Because it's not all tied up with a bow and no one has it all figured out.
Thank you and I love you for working on this with me.
Count me in Jane!! I am going to read this article and come back with feedback!!! Thanks for opening your life again to us!!
Thank you, Nicole! It's already a party because you're coming! I can't wait.
This article includes so much that moves me — but that caption and that photo of your two rocking out is solid gold. The world needs more Daves and whatever the plural of Kris is.
Also, what a sweet comment and I agree!
Are you talking specifically about the caption on the black-and-white photo where she says Dave on bass and me on drugs… I mean, drums? The moment I got that caption from Kris, I wrote to her screaming – it is one of my favorites ever. She said some people think her humor is dark, but not us!
YES! I chortled so loudly my dog moved.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this Kris Rose (what a name!) The wrap up gave my heart wings - this advocacy for being your own authoritative regulator- and Dave’s trusting,non-judgmental approach to how you decide to handle yourself. I recently heard a sociologist April Henning talk about this in the vein of: what is with people who want us all to be totally clean, pure and sober all the time when our environment is riddled with toxins and impurities? Acceptance leads to balance and better choices. I’m ever so grateful to be hearing and reading new perspectives on this topic. 💌
I’m honestly stuck on what is causing the chronic pain in this article, because that’s literally my side-gig: I solve medical mysteries. It’s much more impressive if you see my before I was my oncologist and after pics. Then I’m like the White Witch of the White Coats.
I like not in person parties. I’d go!
And I’m still firmly team Long-Form Jane. And I’m stoked about the ANTM as a watcher until ‘you at home could vote’. Yick.
So glad you will come not in person!
I never watched it at the time but I'm aware that ANTM switched to audience voting and it does sound ick.
Also, I fully expected you to have insight into what Kris is dealing with pain-wise and maybe with more info you can help. Thank you for the thorough comment!
It was interesting when the special came out, and I was one if the old-ass Gen X people saying THINGS WERE DIFFERENT THEN
But things do evolve. I know. I was in therapy in the 1980’s when not one of the top dx’s now existed.
I'm very open to boring you with my long medical history and my struggle to find out exactly what is the major engine behind my chronic pain. I also love witches so...
Absolutely! Right now I’m working on histamines causing insomnia and stress induced parasomnias, but sleep disorders are easy.
Jane! I missed the last one, but please count me in (virtually) for All Tomorrow's Parties! (Sorry, I had to! 🤣🍌) Kris, I'm so glad you're in a much better place these days, with a supportive partner who appreciates you!
Thank you Alyssa! Me too girl, me too! It's been a long strange ride, but I'm still here.
Nico!!
Jane, I’m in for the Zoom party!
Kris, what a great piece. I’m so sorry to read about the misdiagnosis of your thyroid. It’s unfortunately super common for women…I have some experience with that myself.
I’m all for finding balance with substances and not judging anyone for being unable to “raw dog” daily life. I mean, just reading the news or hearing anything that goes on out in these here streets these days…*shudder*
While living in West Australia in the 90’s our “breakfast beer” was Swan Larger 2.2. It came in black bottles. Meat pie and a Desmond, mate.