Whew, mom issues! I can so relate (details in my upcoming memoir!). I have always had a love/hate relationship with my mom. I have rescued her so many times that I have lost count, and most of those rescues came during times when I had shut down my relationship with her. But she was raped at sixteen at gunpoint, then beaten and abused by every husband and man she ever had a relationship with - and I always have to save her. Now she is 83, and I am 62, and we have an amicable relationship. I go and visit her once a month, take her grocery shopping, and get her a haircut. I know that when the time comes, I will rush in to save her one last time. But she has given me permission to write my memoir and share all the "bad mom" episodes... Mom relationships have to be the most difficult and complicated relationships of our lives.
Thank You, Jane, for highlighting this important and often overlooked aspect of motherhood. Leslie, I'm truly touched by your poignant and powerful piece. I'm blessed to have a magnificent mom, now eighty-one, who is my world and my life is so much about honoring her professionally and personally. In fact, my obsessive love for Mom often distracts from the demands of my own middle-aged mothering to a fierce and feisty five-year-old daughter!
Thank you for this gorgeous, thoughtful smart touching (I could go on) comment!
I'm so glad you have such a wonderful mom – as do I! (Mine is 87, just turned.) It has impacted my own mothering also but more in the sense that I feel grateful that I have her as an advisor and a role model based on how she raised me and my siblings. I also feel I'm not sure if I can live up to what she was able to do. But I'm doing my best!
I get the phrase that everyone is doing your best but when I read about moms in particular who don't seem to be trying to do their best, that's hard to hear. I love love love Leslie for this story and what's coming up next in this ongoing series. Love you too!
Before I even took my thumb off the publish button on my phone, Beatrice had liked this post. Beatrice, you're psychic and you have wonderful taste and thank you!
Just the little peek you've given us here reminds me so much of my ex-wife, who I was finally able to successfully divorce a few months ago. Speaking of which, that stat about divorces initiated by women is interesting--particularly because I left my ex and when I asked my attorney when we should file, she said, "Don't file. Let her do it." I asked why, because I was concerned it would cause a perception problem with the court. My attorney said that, from a strategic standpoint, it's better not to file, because then we get to see what line of attack she and her lawyer were using, and we could respond to that. The other reason was to just make her spend the money on the filing fee.😅 She also assured me that the court didn't care who filed first--and she was right.
I think your mother and my mother could be twins. What is it with narcissistic mothers who snoop, refuse to discuss, leave notes? Or in my case, take my poor nerdy high school boyfriend aside and threaten him with a restraining order?
Whew, mom issues! I can so relate (details in my upcoming memoir!). I have always had a love/hate relationship with my mom. I have rescued her so many times that I have lost count, and most of those rescues came during times when I had shut down my relationship with her. But she was raped at sixteen at gunpoint, then beaten and abused by every husband and man she ever had a relationship with - and I always have to save her. Now she is 83, and I am 62, and we have an amicable relationship. I go and visit her once a month, take her grocery shopping, and get her a haircut. I know that when the time comes, I will rush in to save her one last time. But she has given me permission to write my memoir and share all the "bad mom" episodes... Mom relationships have to be the most difficult and complicated relationships of our lives.
Thank You, Jane, for highlighting this important and often overlooked aspect of motherhood. Leslie, I'm truly touched by your poignant and powerful piece. I'm blessed to have a magnificent mom, now eighty-one, who is my world and my life is so much about honoring her professionally and personally. In fact, my obsessive love for Mom often distracts from the demands of my own middle-aged mothering to a fierce and feisty five-year-old daughter!
Thank you for this gorgeous, thoughtful smart touching (I could go on) comment!
I'm so glad you have such a wonderful mom – as do I! (Mine is 87, just turned.) It has impacted my own mothering also but more in the sense that I feel grateful that I have her as an advisor and a role model based on how she raised me and my siblings. I also feel I'm not sure if I can live up to what she was able to do. But I'm doing my best!
I get the phrase that everyone is doing your best but when I read about moms in particular who don't seem to be trying to do their best, that's hard to hear. I love love love Leslie for this story and what's coming up next in this ongoing series. Love you too!
Before I even took my thumb off the publish button on my phone, Beatrice had liked this post. Beatrice, you're psychic and you have wonderful taste and thank you!
Just the little peek you've given us here reminds me so much of my ex-wife, who I was finally able to successfully divorce a few months ago. Speaking of which, that stat about divorces initiated by women is interesting--particularly because I left my ex and when I asked my attorney when we should file, she said, "Don't file. Let her do it." I asked why, because I was concerned it would cause a perception problem with the court. My attorney said that, from a strategic standpoint, it's better not to file, because then we get to see what line of attack she and her lawyer were using, and we could respond to that. The other reason was to just make her spend the money on the filing fee.😅 She also assured me that the court didn't care who filed first--and she was right.
I think your mother and my mother could be twins. What is it with narcissistic mothers who snoop, refuse to discuss, leave notes? Or in my case, take my poor nerdy high school boyfriend aside and threaten him with a restraining order?